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DreamGrowing up, we all have aspirations. For years, I wanted to be in the S.W.A.T. Team. Then it morphed into joining the Navy Seals. Yet, this is not what I chose. Did I waste my life?

Others may may have desired to be a ballerina, a fireman, a stay at home mom, etc. Are these lives wasted?

As we mature, our dreams change. But if we failed to accomplish those dreams before we are 50, have we failed? Or wonder if we don’t ever achieve them, what then?

For me, I pursued Bible college. I obtained a Biblical Studies degree. If I am not in full time ministry, should I be considered a failure? Or worse, wasting my life?

Family is Number 1

Invest in FamilyOur first ministry must be our family. Even if you are a pastor, your family must be number 1. If you are too busy evangelizing or discipling others, but you are not present for your family, guess what? You are wasting your life (1 Timothy 5:8).

The man (or woman) who dies to himself/herself is fulfilling the role God has called him/her to be.

Please do not misunderstand what I am saying. This is not to say family becomes an idol. The focus and mission of your family must revolve around Christ.

Don’t Be Discouraged

PathwayMy point is quite simple, please do not be discouraged.  You may have had hopes and dreams, but then the responsibilities of being an adult took you down a different path. Or now you are a parent and your dreams had to get put on the back burner.  Or perhaps your dreams will never come to fruition.

Here is the thing, it is okay and even good for you to lay down your desires to serve your family (Romans 12:10). It is good and proper. Your family becomes your first priority and it is honorable to die to yourself (Philippians 2:3-4) .  Your life is not wasted.

How to not waste your life? Invest time, energy, money into your family God has blessed you with.


Justin is a husband, father, and a writer. He is passionate about equipping parents, glorifying Jesus, and helping the local church. Justin currently resides in Michigan with his wife and two daughters.

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